All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act on their dreams with open eyes, to make them possible.
— Thomas Edward Lawrence (of Arabia)

Ever since you were a small child you noticed things. You might have watched an autumn leaf, one whose beauty and fragility brought tears to your eyes. You might have listened to waves of cricket song that drew you tender moments of reverie. Perhaps you spent more hours than anyone else ever would luxuriating in the bathtub, communing with the cosmos with your ears below the surface spying in on whale calls echoing in your bathwater. Or you may have witnessed the slow motion big bang origin of the universe explode before your closed eyes as you held your face up to the afternoon sun. Entire worlds opened themselves up to you from what seemed to be out of nowhere. The beauty, the flavor, the rhythm, the cadence. and the nuances of these worlds were never wasted on you because, unlike others, you knew how to pay attention.

Your attention was anything but in deficit. Your ability to lose yourself in the presence of God’s creation enabled you to explore worlds that others had no clue even existed. These were beautiful, golden times full of adventure and romance.

And then, sooner than later, people started noticing that you were noticing things. They noticed that you weren’t noticing what they wanted you to notice. You were listening to sounds and watching a world they had forgotten was there. They noticed you weren’t getting as much work completed or earning enough stars in their grade books. They noticed you were different.

And then it was all over. Well-meaning adults and spiteful children alike called you names. If you were lucky, the names were romantic and benign. “Dreamer,” they would say or, “What a space cadet.” Parents and teachers said you were lazy, restless, disorganized, and underachieving.

The words you heard most often as you grew up were “Hurry up. You’re taking too much time. Get a move on. You’re going to be late.”

So you did what you could to speed things along. You tried to please. Instead of dwelling on the beauty and the mysteries of the universe, losing yourself in the beauty and the mystery of the world around you, you learned to rush. And the universe itself stared rushing by you as well. Speeding up the pace of your thoughts and your observations and your musings you found that you were able to attend yourself to many things at once. You found that the world itself was calling to you in many different directions at a pace that kept you hopping.

There was so much to notice. You tried to do your work in school, but a street cleaner was coming by, the rain was dripping off the leaves in slow motion, birds were gathering on the telephone wire, and the fractal patterns formed by the lines on the face of your teacher were more interesting than anything she was trying to tell you. On the way home from school, you tried to pay attention to where you were going, but the clouds were forming themselves in to cotton candy castles. The mashed potatoes on your plate could be transformed into animal effigies. The vibrations on the back of the bus were synchronizing with the waves in the old lady’s hair sitting in front of you. Dogs and squirrels and birds may have been talking to you and you knew that if you could just take the time to listen you could understand what they had to say.

And colors. Flashes of color, shadows of color, trees and sky and water. They all called to you. Colors deepened and changed. Everything, everywhere, living and nonliving seemed to call to you.

And the world didn’t just want you to notice. The world wanted you to participate, to run and jump and touch the energy of the wind as it brushed over your fingertips. Sounds and smells, visions both real and imaginary called to you. Come play with me.

The only way to keep up with the ideas and the pace of your own imagination was to keep hurrying up. As you grew and matured, ideas started coming to you as well. You would have a clever idea, and then, before you knew it another idea (related directly, tangentially, or not at all) You invented solutions to the world’s problems, you devised ways to reorganize flora and fauna giving them names according to the sweetness of their breath, or the lightness of their touch, the bass of their pounding.

Not all your meanderings and your noticing were pleasant. Because much of you worried too. You worried about Santa getting stuck in your little tiny flue in your fireplace. You worried about the stray cats outside in the winter that they might not find anywhere cozy to sleep. You worried about unidentified flying objects and if the intelligent life forms that traveled in them would be able to find someone as friendly as you before the army started shooting them down. You worried about your grandma’s heart condition. And you worried about the animals you knew were being killed so that you could eat. You worried that gravity might someday lose its grip and we all might suddenly fall aimlessly through space.

You worried about smoke in the sky, poison in the water and the evil of human ways. You worried that if you weren’t good enough, you might go to hell forever. You worried about your parents’ impending divorce before they even knew the possibility ever occurred to them. You worried about a stuffed dog you lost when you were little, even though you weren’t little any more.

You worried because you couldn’t help but keep noticing.

And people went right on noticing you noticing. And they thought maybe you were doing drugs. And maybe you were and that’s the only time you felt normal. At least then, the friends you were doing the drugs with were going along on some kind of ride of their own and weren’t likely to tell you to hurry up.

And you started noticing people. You noticed the beauty of eyes. So you looked deeply into the faces of anyone close enough to see. Whole universes expanded within each set of pupils. And you listened to their voices. And you touched their hair, their lips. You watched the way their flesh moved as they walked. You could listen to them speak about anything for hours, just to hear the music of their voices. You fell in love deeply and often.

People noticed this and called you  names. Disloyal. Unfaithful. Slutty.
Maybe you found yourself alone. Shut out. A big weirdo.

Or maybe you learned to behave and to compensate for your noticing. Maybe you learned how to disguise or dampen your questioning and thinking and reflecting and imagining and inventing so much that you blend in with the rest of the world. Maybe you blurred the intensity of your noticing to a point that you don’t even know who you are anymore.

And now people call you other names. Accomplished, normal, good.
Maybe you compensated so often and so well that you stopped losing yourself in the wonders of the universe. Maybe you truly lost who you were meant to be.

Maybe that’s what’s wrong with you.

0 thoughts on “What’s wrong with you?

  1. Kathi Kizirnis

    bravo, and encore! more! so happy i have time to read your amazing stuff now.
    xxxxxxx k

  2. Elvin Knox

    Jesus! Who wrote this? You have just summed up my life!

  3. Patricija

    Nice! When I read this I think that ˝You˝ in the story is actually Me=)

    +my name is also Patricija=)

  4. patricia

    thank you! I think there’s a bit of the slow learner in all of us.

  5. Elisa Hollenberg

    This piece is wonderful! I felt like you were describing me, because I notice things in this way (deeply, intensely)…I didn’t know that other people did this as well!!! Thank you, Patricia!

  6. Chrsterfa

    This sounds like me too. It’s intensely frustrating to be automatically discounted in this rat race results driven world because people don’t seem to take the time to look beyond the surface to see the things you know you are capable of.

  7. Patricia Kambitsch Post author

    Taking time to notice our capacities, our special abilities, our senses, our bodies, our feelings, our reflections can seem subversive, if not crazy. And to that I say: so what! Go deep. Slow down and notice.

  8. Aaron

    this is an amazing piece of writing – thanks so much for sharing it. it’s really, wonderfully unforgettable.

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